Honesty is the Best Policy: In Life and in Business

Often times, people struggle with the precept (training rule) of “Abstaining from Lying”.

“I am trying to protect others and their feelings”, they say.  “That’s considered a white lie right?”

The kind of scenarios that is often brought up involves saving people’s life from hunters, burglars etc (or terrorists in today’s context?), but in our day to day interaction, how many of us really have to face a gun or knife wielding person? Read More …

About a $100 a day

A while back, a devotee who is a cab driver was driving me back after a lunch offering and was having a counselling-on-wheels session with me.

He was rather troubled by some past injustice and just can’t help but want to do something about it.  He wants justice.

At some point, I realised that he was bent on spending a lot of his time and resources (more money) to fight and get some justice.  Now, don’t get me wrong, I am all for justice.  Where possible, there should be justice.  But sometimes, for some twisted reasons unbeknownst to this world, justice may be very remote or may come at a price greater than the cause itself.  Then I wonder if it is worthwhile pursuing this justice. Read More …

Respecting People’s Choices

Respecting people’s choices.  Should all choices be respected?  Or are all choices worthy of respect?  People’s right to making choices should be respected, but there are good choices and there are bad choices.  Good choices bring about welfare and happiness to oneself and others while bad ones bring uncertainty, fear and stress.

Respecting all choices without distinction would mean respecting bad choices as well.  When bad choices are respected, we encourage bad choices to be made again in future.

Respect people’s right to choices, including bad ones.  But don’t respect all choices indiscriminately, especially the bad ones.

You Have A Choice

In our life, we have a choice.  Are we going to go through 9 hours of work grumpily or cheerfully?

Are we going to study for 3 to 4 years of undergrad studies just to earn a degree that we use only once for our first job, or are we going to actually learn something useful about this world, ourselves and others?

Are we going to stay faithful and committed to what we started with, be it a
project or a relationship?  Are you going to get frustrated over things in life or are we going to choose to be happy?

It is easy to be happy when we get what we want.  That is the first skill we all have.  It is easy to be unhappy when we don’t get what we want.  That is the second skill we all also have.  But we have a third skill.  We can choose to be at ease, or not to be unhappy when we don’t get what we want.

I say this not because I have mastered the third skill, but because I’ve tasted it and I know you can too.

So what is your choice my friend, are you going to watch this video?


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