Someone asked me on facebook about the Buddha’s teachings on “Letting go”, below is my reply. (English right below)
First off, don’t let go. Start by observing the people, matters and things that we cannot let go and find out what all this is about. Apply the Buddha’s teachings on impermanence, dependent arising, emptiness (of inherent nature) or no-self to reflect and observe.
When we slowly see clearly the inter-dependent-arising relationship between all of us, we would not be so attached to our self and esteem, and our unreal projection on others will cease.
However, this gradual “letting go” in reality does not exist. Without attachment, there is no need to “let go”. Further, “letting go” is not “giving up”. “Let go” of our deluded thinking and attachment, not give up on people, matters and things.